isn't it strange the hoops we will sometimes jump through for friends? if you had an inadequate boyfriend or girlfriend who treated you like dirt you'd probably dump them faster than bad mexican food. but with friends it is different. there is something poetic about true friendship that we all feel like we have to fight for. the worst thing is when you have warring friends. suddenly your jumping through two, three hoops. eventually you are just going to fall on your face. but you continually put yourself out there and hope that it will change. being a good friend, by definition, means you have to be there for all the shit that happens. when that other person starts to fall, you have to be there to go down with them. it just sucks when they crawl up over you and leave you sittin there.
but the upside to this whole frienship thing is when you get to be there for all the truly great things. if you think about it, a man alone isn't really great. it's the people around him that make him great by comparison. alone he is just a man doing his thing. friendship gives you an opportunity to make another person feel that they are the greatest person in the world and have them do the same for you. the satisfaction of true friendship is irreplaceable. no matter how many acquaintances you may have, a billion couldn't take the place of one true friend.
so how do you decide, in the course of a friendship, when to (metaphorically speaking) shit or get off the pot? everyone knows, friendships shouldn't be abusive, take advantage, blah blah blah. but is it enough for a person to just be a bad friend? can you let it go for that? what happens when they come around? worse, what happens if they don't? could true friendship be like true love... it always seems so perfect at the time but in hindsight you're like "that guy was a dick... he never treated me right." maybe i'm just cynical. or maybe i'm right. either way i think i lost a friend today.
that guy was a dick anyways.
*blog*
p.s. i'm not trying to be overly dramatic here or anything... no need for anyone to feel sorry for me... just feel sorry for that poor bastard.... ;o)
posted by megs at 02:09
